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The heart is like a garden

January 8, 2018

“The heart is like a garden. It can grow compassion or fear; resentment or love. What seeds will you plant there?” – Buddha

Quote of the day

Sharna Pearce

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Jul 4

I've been absent momentarily - learning and creating! I'll share more soon ... but for now let's continue with Gabor Maté's powerful '7 As of Healing'

No 4. is Autonomy. The capacity to self determine - to know self from non-self, the ability to create boundaries and make independent choices about what constitutes our lives, both physically and emotionally.

'From a simple biological perspective, it may appear that the survival of the human organism ought to be nature's ultimate goal. It would seem, however, that the existence of an autonomous, self-regulating psyche is nature's highest purpose.

Mind and spirit can survive grievous bodily injury, but time and again we see that the physical body begins to succumb when psychic integrity and freedom are jeopardised'

Enmeshment, co-dependency, the lack of clear boundary between child and parent - can all significantly impact on our ability to heal and stay well.

'Boundaries and autonomy are essential for health. We experience life through our bodies. If we are not able to articulate our life experience, our bodies speak what our mouths and minds cannot.

Autonomy - knowing and embracing an internal centre of control, an internal reference point for identity, values, actions - has a profound impact on healing.

We all have stories of compromised boundaries. I'm still a work in progress! How well can you say 'No' or 'Yes' and mean it? xo

#bodyautonomy #traumainformed #adelaidelocal #identity #kinesiology #stress #healingtrauma #adelaidehills

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Jun 27

I just had the immense pleasure of spending 3 incredible hours learning about Socials with Soul from the vastly knowledgeable Jemma at @noidea_agency 💜 along with a beautifully wise bunch of women seeking just what I am looking for...authentic socials with meaning 🌀

This was all thanks to Kellie Hansen @kelliehansen.naturopath.coach @sasoulpreneurs
A big shout-out to you Kellie - thank you for your vision to create space for us all to learn, nourish, share and grow 🙏🏽

#sasoulpreneurs #adelaide #authenticconnection #southaustralianvibes #adelaidelocal #gratitude #womeninbusiness #vulnerabilityisbeautiful
#action #wayofthefeminine #kinesiologyadelaide

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Jun 21

Deep Winter Solstice Blessings to you - here in the Southern Hemisphere.

This is a profound moment of pause, the inertia created by the shift from the decreasing of daylight yesterday and the subtle increase in daylight tomorrow.

It is a time for deep contemplation, stillness and rest. In the 3 consecutive days, we are letting go of that which no longer serves us (June 20), pausing in the void (June 21), and reflecting on that which we do want to include in our lives as the light and warmth emerge in the Spring (June 22)

Find a quiet spot today and gently check in on how you are tracking.
Are there parts of your path that need some redirection?
What do you need?
What do you no longer need?
What can you give?

This reflection is a potent investment for when the cycle starts anew in spring xo

#newblogpost #rest #restore #reflect #loveinfusedliving #wintersolstice #deepstillness #turninginward #adelaidehills #adelaidelocal #reflectionstories

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Jun 17

As we raise our awareness in our bodies we start to become more conscious of the sensations we feel when particular emotions rise. Anger is by far the one we avoid feeling the most. Why?

'There is something basically anxiety-provoking about the anger experience because it co-exists with with positive feelings, with love and desire for contact....anger leads to an attacking energy that threatens attachment.' To feel negatively toward a loved one may be too much to bare.

And so it seems more comfortable to either avoid the experience of anger through repression, or to discharge against anger so as not to actually experience it in our body.

'So repression and discharge are two sides of the same coin. Both represent fear and anxiety, and thus trigger the same physiological response.'

What of healthy anger then?

'Healthy anger is an empowerment and a relaxation. The real experience of anger is one of a surge of power going through the system along with a mobilisation to attack. There is, simultaneously, a complete disappearance of all anxiety....

'Anger does not require hostile acting out. First and foremost, it is a physiological process to be experienced. Second it has cognitive value - it provides information.

We are greatly empowered, without harming anyone, if we permit ourselves to experience the anger (sensation) and to contemplate what may have triggered it.

Depending on the circumstance, we may then choose to use words and/or action to alter the situation, or simply allow the anger to dissolve.

Healthy anger leaves the individual, not the unbridled emotion, in charge.' Gabor Maté

What has been your experience with anger? xo

#anger #awareness #sensations #emotions #health #healing #hostility #empowerment #loveinfusedliving

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Jun 16

When referring to awareness, Gabor Maté points to reigniting a deeper sense of awareness - beyond the words that we speak or hear. An emotional intelligence that builds a fuller perception held in unconscious expressions like voice tone, body language, facial expressions - key for accessing our 'gut feelings' about a person or event.

So how and why have we lost this capacity in the first place? As children we often 'repress our emotional intelligence (how we FEEL about something) in order to avoid an ongoing war with the crucial people in our lives, a war we cannot possibly win.'

But it is this full awareness, this well developed emotional intelligence, that empowers us to know what is right for us and what is not. We need this powerful tool to safely navigate the world on our own terms.

This also means learning to recognise the signs of stress in our bodies - particularly when our minds have missed the cue.

A pounding heart, sweating, fatigue, headaches and backaches.
Emotional tension or over-alertness, anxiety or loss of enthusiasm for life.
Unusual irritability and a tendency to overreact...

Our physical response is the best gauge of our true experience of any encounter. Learning to trust these internal perceptions - and honour them - builds our emotional competence and wires us for healing. xo

#awareness #stress #competence #emotions #trust #trauma #kinesiology #intelligence #loveinfusedliving

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Jun 15

While acceptance can ultimately bring with it a sense of peace, the road to acceptance is frequently marred with resistance, struggle and pain. We fight the truth with all our might at times.

So often, at least for me, acceptance only comes when I no longer have the strength (or patience) to resist. And surrender starts me on the road to acceptance - to acknowledge the truth of what I face about myself or the world around me.

I have learned that self compassion is so important in this phase. An energy of kindness and love softens the movement into acceptance. It allows me to open to new possibilities - to the knowledge that things could be different, better different.

As Gabor Maté writes so eloquently, 'Compassionate curiosity about the self does not mean liking everything we find out about ourselves, only that we look at ourselves with the same non-judgemental acceptance we would wish to accord anyone else who suffered or needed help'

What has been your experience on the road to healing? I'd love to hear (with compassionate ears of course). xo

#acceptance #denial #selfcompassion #truth #curiosity #non-judgement #loveinfusedliving

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Jun 15

In the free Masterclass on 'Digesting Our Emotions' I held in May, we talked about the various reasons why it is so rare to reach adulthood with full emotional competence - an ability to navigate the stresses of life and maintain a wholeness in our sense of self.

Dr Gabor Maté's life work has been focussed on stress and trauma and it's impact on our physical, mental, social and emotional health.

In his powerful book 'When the Body Says No', Dr Maté reveals the 7 vital aspects he has observed in the development and maintenance of full emotional competence. I'm so keen to unpack these concepts with you....xo

#trauma #emotionalcompetence #stress #safety #health #mentalhealth #loveinfusedliving

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Jun 12

You are not broken. You do not need to be fixed. Your body simply houses unresolved trauma. Trauma - big 'T' and little 't' - is stored in our cells as a unique guidepost for our best way to heal.

The wisdom of Dr Gabor Maté's '7 A's of Healing' - acceptance, awareness, anger, autonomy, attachment, assertion, affirmation - holds deep insights about what needs to be processed or embraced in order to heal. They each deserve deeper attention - I'll explore one each day this week. Stay tuned. xo

#acceptance #awareness #anger #autonomy #attachment #assertion #affirmation #trauma #kinesiology #embodiedprocessing #loveinfusedliving

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Jun 11

Intuitive listening is my favourite thing 💜 Being truly still and present with someone, I can hear their hopes, their dreams and their fears. I can feel the deep, inspiring, unapologetic truth of another. It is in this space that gentle and profound change emerges. This is my happy place. xo

#intuition #activelistening #truth #favourite #inspiration #kinesiology #loveinfusedliving #home

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Jun 7

Here are the deets:

You're just not sure of the tools that will take your stress and overwhelm away but you're willing to show up for yourself and practice what you learn.

NB: This is not a quick fix

You must be ready to let go of your old patterns, be open to new ways of being and take 10 minutes of self practice every day to consolidate the tools you learn.

You will probably feel uncomfortable for most of the 3-4 months and you may have moments of doubt.
I ask that anyone who responds to this please be ready for that and be willing to place your trust in me, the unfolding of life and these simple tools.

You must also be able to handle a life without stress and overwhelm 😉

If that's you, comment 'I'm in' below and I'll follow up with a few more questions and send you details. xo

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Jun 2

I am slow today. The result of a productive and inspiring month in May combined with the first day of bleeding in a new cycle.

So I have slept in (rare for me), lit a fire and snuggled up with my nourishing porridge and my divine Love Tea @loveteaofficial 💜

I don't always get to stop on my first days of bleeding, but when I do, boy does it make a difference to the rest of my month. This potent rest allows me to process and grow from what I have experienced and faced in the previous cycle. Rest on the slow days leads to flow, productivity and inspiration by mid month. As the mantra of the Goddess says 'In Stillness, I Amplify' ✨

This rhythm of flowing with the cycles is a way of life for me now. The cycle of the Women's Wheel is deeply entrenched in my bones. And there is so much more to share.

Would you like me to run a FREE Masterclass on the 'Foundations of the Women's Wheel'? Let me know in the comments below...💜

PS. If you missed Tuesday's FREE Masterclass on 'Digesting Our Emotions' you can still register to receive a recording until this Friday. Head to my website to opt in! xo

#slowdays #mooncycle #womenswheel #goddessmantra #selfcare #rest #stillness #flow #cycles #rhythm #emotions #loveinfusedliving

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May 28

Light weekend reading! This stuff fascinates me.
I love to delve deeply into what makes us tick. Emotions are a hot topic in these intense times.
Are you curious about yours? xo

PS: I'm running a FREE Masterclass this Tuesday (31 May) on 'Digesting Our Emotions' - register your spot at www.loveinfusedliving.com.au

#emotions #presence #vagusnerve #somaticprocessing #kinesiology #loveinfusedliving

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May 25

Intuitive listening is such a powerful process. Our heart's truth shines out above all else. So grateful to do this transformational work. xo

#intuition #transformation #heartcentred #loveinfusedliving #kinesiology #traumainformed #listening

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May 20

Over the past few years, like many others, I have been transitioning through some big growth and pain points, navigating overwhelm and healing big shadow wounds. It's been challenging to say the least. I know many of us have been in this place and many still are.

To my great relief, I have emerged from this Dark Night of the Soul, wiser and more open-hearted, having learned deep lessons about the crises we face and the true meaning of this Soul Journey.
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I am delighted to invite 10 beautiful women to journey with me, over the next 5 months, as I share these life-changing insights and skills in a powerful container of inspiration and compassion.
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Soul Expansion Mentoring Journey
Starts mid-June 2022
For full details and to register your interest please contact Sharna - hello@loveinfusedliving.com.au

#soulexpansion #sacredspace #innerpeace #valuesforlife #compassion #sacredcontainer #alchemy #womenswheel #kinesiology #loveinfusedliving #transition #transformation #traumainformedcare #innertruth #divinefeminine #wholeness #authenticity #mentoring #june2022

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May 18

Beautiful client love flowing in - the alchemy of co-creation is a true joy to experience. So grateful. xo

#lovemywork #loveinfusedliving #soulmentoring #cocreation #innertruth #presence #joy

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May 13

With so much change surrounding us in the world today - in our individual lives as well as our local and global communities - it's easy to fall into a state of overwhelm and anxiety.

In this video, I share some of the hints our bodies and minds give us to signal that we're not functioning at our optimum.

The upside of noticing this overwhelm in our bodies is that I have lots of simple tips to help alleviate the stress and bring you back to centre.

Watch my 10 part reel series over the coming days to find out how. xo

#overwhelm #simpletips #soothing #vagusnerve #centring #innerpeace #traumainformedcare

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